These are two meals I cooked while my wife frantically studied for her Doctoral Comprehensive Exams . My wife is a great cook, a much better cook than I am, and I do enjoy when she cooks. But, during her final week of studying, things were very hectic for her.
So in doing my part, I tried to cook some meals that were healthy. My prayer was that the food would help her study, and that by cooking, that would be one less burden on her and she would be less stressed. The point is regardless of what the norm is, in marriage we must be ready, willing, available, and aware to make the proper and appropriate adjustments to serve your spouse.
This was my feeble attempt to carry out Philippians 2:3 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;
In your marriage, be present and pay attention. Look for ways to serve your spouse. Know your spouse and do what is helpful to them, not what you would want them to do for you.
A wonderful marriage is built upon details and moments. Work to find consistent small things to improve your marriage.