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15th Wedding Anniversary Paris Trip Recap Video

marriage_whys — Tue, 05 Jul 2016 03:38:18 +0000

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Aruba

marriage_whys — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 20:54:39 +0000

For our 14th wedding anniversary we decided to take a last minute trip to Aruba. We could not decide between the Dominican Republic, Coast Rica, and Aruba. We eventually selected Aruba because we found an extremely good deal, the island seems to offer a lot of amenities and diverse experience. Also, we wanted to use our passports, travel somewhere not many people that we know had traveled, and we wanted to go to an area of the Caribbean we hadn’t visited before.

When we travel, we like to get away from the tourist areas and activities. We try to experience life like the locals. Eat where the locals eat. Relax like the locals relax. We were able to do a little of this in Aruba but not as much as we would liked too. So to capture our travels to Aruba, we decided to make a list of 14 things to remember about our visit to Aruba.

1. Favorite Beaches: Eagle Beach & Baby Beach

2. Favorite Non-Beach Water: Mangel Halto

3. Favorite Experience: Sunset Dinner at Passions on the Beach (a little expensive, but very nice setting) & Cuba’s Cookin (live music)

4. Favorite Restaurants: Hopi Bon Grill & The West Deck

5. Favorite Dessert: Gelatissimo

6. Favorite Animal: Flamingos on Renaissance Island

7. Best Food Deal: Food Truck on Eagle Beach

8. Activities we didn’t get to do: Submarine Tour.

9. Recommended Tour: UTV Tour that includes Natural Pool.

10. Most surprising: The island is extremely windy. There are a ton of loose dogs running around.

11. Pleasant surprises: Very good drinking water. There are only about 18 inches of rain fall in Aruba per year, and we were there when it rained. We won a free vacation from Divi Resorts.

12. Unpleasant surprises: Food is very expensive. There are more flies on the island than expected.

13. Recommendations: Stay at least 4 days. If you are adventurous, rent a car.

14. Be adventurous and explore the type of travel you like. Aruba offered a lot of amenities on a tiny island- beaches, water sports, all-inclusive resorts, high-end shopping, flea market shopping, hiking, bird watching, lots of food options, local & westernized experiences, history, and culture.

We enjoyed our visit to Aruba and would go back in the future.

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14 Days of Marriagewhys – 14 tips

marriage_whys — Thu, 18 Jun 2015 03:00:51 +0000

Day 1- From the day you get married, know that nothing “magical” happens once you make it official. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking marriage will just “take its course”. You should still go on dates, say “I love you”, learn more about your spouse, and be ACTIVE in protecting your relationship.

Day 2- Support your spouse! (As long as they are making Godly decisions that are best for your family) Their first layer of support should come from you, not the outside world. If they are not making Godly decisions, pray for your spouse.

Day 3- As a young Bride or Groom, respect the position your spouse is in, AND value your role. (Of course, this should continue throughout your marriage)

Day 4- You can’t place the blame on just one spouse. There should not be a such thing as “growing apart”. Both of you are responsible for moving TOGETHER.

Day 5- Always speak well of your spouse, even to yourself. Speak well of your spouse in the recesses of your heart and mind, and you will treat them well.

Day 6- When I first got married, I wish would have known…to not let small things turn into big problems.

Day 7- Marriage involves thinking and planning beyond the wedding. Our wedding cost approximately $2,900 (for EVERYTHING, Including the honeymoon). It wasn’t the “Wedding of the Century”. However, the memories made, and significance of the vows that we take so seriously today, are PRICELESS.

Day 8- Laugh together before going to bed.

Day 9- Feed what you want to grow in your spouse and starve what you want to wither. Give attention to all that is wonderful about your spouse. Give grace, mercy and forgiveness to your spouse’s shortcomings.

Day 10 and TBT- When needed, be creative in marriage! Love doesn’t cost a thing…watch the video to learn about the most romantic gift ever received in this marriage. It cost about fifty cents, but its value is so much more! Day 10 Tip Video & Throw Back Thursday

Day 11- “They aren’t ready” Many thought we were too young to be married…we should finish school first, etc. Don’t let someone else’s opinion or experience in marriage stop you from getting married. Although “day 1” of your marriage could be the most perfect day, know that you and your spouse are not perfect. However, you must be willing to be fully committed to grow and learn with your spouse.

Day 12- Cook together. Keep the cooking spicy and we are not just talking about the food. No seriously, we are talking about cooking.

Day 13- It is important in marriage to have a church home, with a solid foundation in the Word, strong/humble leadership, and loving marriage mentors.

Day 14- Seek Oneness. We hope you have enjoyed our 14 tips in honor our 14th Wedding Anniversary.

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A Love Story Poem

marriage_whys — Thu, 20 Jun 2013 02:45:11 +0000

I wrote the poem below in 2008 on Valentine’s Day for my wife. Don’t beat me up to bad on the theological soundness of it, I have grown & matured greatly in the knowledge, wisdom, mercy, and grace of the Lord and his Word. The point of sharing the poem is not theological but more practical. This was a point in time in which I realized that Romance and being Romantic was not something you either did or didn’t have, nor something you were born with, but in fact it was something you could develop and grow. Romance like most things consist in focusing on it, developing it, trying, learning, and studying it. If you lack Romance in your marriage, you need to be Romantic on purpose, it doesn’t just happen. You need to try to be Romantic. You need to think of ways to be Romantic. The more focus and effort you give to being Romantic the richer the experience will become. Romance is not complicated but it does take thought, time, and effort.

Romance is a thoughtful express of love.

A Love Story

In eternity past God decided he would create
an example of wonderful human love to show the world.
At that moment our love was created.

Before time, God paired your soul with mine,
so that in time you would be mine and,
at the appointed time our lives intertwined.

In you an angel became flesh,
your beautiful soul,
clothed in beautiful flesh, yet
your eyes still shine like the glow of an angel.

A priceless treasure you are,
only surpassed
by GOD’s LOVE and
free gift of
SALVATION we have both received.

To be allowed to walk with you,
my wife,
is more than one man could ask for in life.
To hold the most costly jewel, is as if holding dust
when compared to holding you.
To gaze upon the brightest star is but a dim light,
when compared to the light of the fire you create in my heart.

Your love strengthens me.
Your love comforts me.
Your love is more then enough for a life time.

Thank you for Loving Me.

Love

Your humble and grateful husband
Mr. Whys
02/14/2008

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Natural Beauty

marriage_whys — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 23:04:42 +0000

I remember like it was yesterday. I was sitting on my porch and she pulled up in front of the house and parked at the curb. She got out and started walking up toward the porch where I was sitting. As she approached, I scanned her up and down, examining everything about her. I don’t have the greatest memory, but I can remember this defining moment in my life and in our relationship. I don’t remember what we talked about, or what she was saying as she stood in front of me, but I do remember what I was looking at and what I was thinking. As I scanned her, my eyes stopped on this line that goes across her nose. I said to myself, “yep, that’s it, that is going to be the reason I break-up with her in the future. I am going to look at that line across her nose and think it is ugly, and that she is not cute anymore”. I continued to stare at that line. I really thought she was beautiful, but I just knew I would weasel my way out of the relationship and I would use that line as my own personal rationale.

That was 14 years ago, she is now my wife and I still look at that line on her nose. Now when I look at it it is more beautiful each day. The line is part of the richness, depth, and sincerity of her beauty. She is so unique in personality and look.

My wife and I have this running debate. She thinks she needs make-up, especially to cover up the line on her nose. But I love that line. I love her natural beauty. I love her when she has the least amount of makeup on. I think she is so beautiful when she wakes up, when she is working out, when she is cooking, when we are working in the yard, when she has on jeans and a t-shirt. I especially love when she doesn’t have any glasses or contacts on, her vulnerability comes out in her face, skin and demeanor. I don’t think she needs to wear any makeup.

Never been a fan of makeup for several reasons. Growing up none of the women in my life (grandmother, mother, or sister) wore make-up on a regular basis. The only time they put on makeup was when they were “getting made-up”, putting on a face, and even then it was just lipstick, eyeliner, and eyeshadow, maybe blush but not foundation. The other reason I am not a fan of make-up is because it is mostly used to cover up the natural beauty of a women, the richness and depth of their natural features in exchange for a uniform, homogeneous, foundation made to make them look like everyone else, or like some ideal of the perfect skin. I say embrace the natural beauty that God has given you. If it is a skin quality issue, try to find natural ways to change the quality of your skin. If you have “bad” skin, pray, change your eating, drink more water, less stress, get sleep, only use makeup as a last resort.

To me my wife doesn’t need any makeup, and I think she is so gorgeous. The more I love her inside, the more I love her outside. What she sees as a flaw, I see as flawless.

I wish she could see herself as I see her.

I love you sweetheart, your beauty takes my breath away.

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